It was very important to John and I when Jordyn was born to continue to make time for ourselves. Whether it was an hour long dinner, a day to ourselves, or a weekend spent with friends we made sure to have time alone every few weeks or so. Sometimes this was easier said than done, with our busy schedules, but nonetheless, we made the effort.
Jordyn had her first sleep over with Mia and Grandpa at 11 weeks old while John and I attended our friends' wedding. It was hard to leave her but we were also excited to spend time with friends and I knew my mom was ecstatic for her time with Jordyn.
Things haven't changed a bit in the past 2 1/2 years. We still have date nights and still have nights away while Jordyn has her date nights with either set of Grandparents. We are fortunate to have parents who encourage us to have the time away. It helps to leave her knowing that she is in wonderful care!
We will continue to try and do the same with Jillian and we started on Friday night.
John and I went and had sushi for our first dinner out. Just the two of us. No kiddos.
It was nice to be able to eat dinner (slowly!) and have adult conversation. However, I must admit that most talk turned to the girls. We were only gone for an hour but that was all we needed. It was perfect.
Some people probably think John and I are crazy for leaving Jordyn as much as we have. And here is my two cents (pardon me as I climb upon my soap box!): you will only be as good of parents as your marriage. You may think you are doing your kids a favor to be with them 24/7 but in my opinion- if you don't have alone time with your spouse you are doing your kids an injustice. Also, kids need time away from their parents. Jordyn has been given quality time with her Grandparents since such a young age that now she practically pushes us out the door when we drop her off for the night. There is never a tear shed. So don't judge us- join us! Your kids will thank you!
It will be harder to get away now having Jordyn and Jillian but we will do what we can and welcome the time for ourselves with a smile and gratitude. And after we have a nice sleep, some great food and wine, and time with our dearest friends we will be ready to return to our sweet girls!
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Yeah it is sad when kids are that old and afraid to be without their parents. To each is own- and I do not judge others. I just know that for John and I this has worked best. Jordyn LOVES her daycare and when the day comes that she moves on to something else (like preschool) I know it will be hard for her to leave her friends and Lupe! But then preschool will be a new adventure filled with new friends!
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