When John and I were dating people would always ask us when we were planning on having kids. My response: "We aren't even engaged yet!"
Once we were engaged, people would always ask us when we were planning on having kids. My response: "We aren't even married yet!"
Once we were married people starting asking us, almost instantly, when we wanted to start having kids.
We got pregnant with Jordyn about 8 months after we were married and people were ecstatic. I mean why wouldn't they be? They had been asking us about this for years now! :)
Jordyn was born eight months later and the questions started again.
"So, when are you going to try for number two?"
Seriously people! Let us enjoy this little baby girl!
John and I always knew we wanted more than one baby and knew we wanted about a 2 1/2 year gap between number one and number two. So you best be believing that I "planned" when I wanted to get pregnant with Jillian.
Would you be surprised if I told you people are already asking us "Are you done?" or "When is number three coming?"
She isn't even a month old!!!
Growing up, and even last year, I was certain I wanted three children. However, my thoughts changed while pregnant with Jillian. I started realizing that maybe two was better for our family. Plus John has always only wanted two children. So I knew having three would take some convincing on my end.
Pregnancies are scary. Jordyn was born 5 weeks early and therefore I spent my entire 2nd pregnancy worried about how early the baby would be. Would I miscarry? Would I have to spend time with a newborn in the NICU again? All these thoughts went through my end time after time.
I realized something towards the end of my pregnancy and more so after labor and delivery and after meeting my precious baby girl: why chance it? I had "survived" two pregnancies and had two beautiful healthy baby girls, so why push it?
This isn't to say that in three or four years from now I could change my mind, but for now I am as happy as one could be. I have a 2 1/2 year old who lights up my life again and again with each passing day. And I have a baby who has brought so much happiness into our lives in the small amount of time she has been here.
I am truly blessed.
So have my plans changed a little? Yes, they have.
So people, you may ask, "When will baby number three be here?"
Not sure. Let me enjoy babies number one and two right now.
2 comments:
I hear ya! We are in the same boat. I wanted 3, Lee wanted 2, now I am thinking logically two makes more sense. I figure we won’t make any final decisions until Ryan is at least 18 months since that would be when we would want to try for a 3rd if we end up going that route. Another thought that has crossed my mind is adoption…. All we can do is pray and God will lead us to the right path. Enjoy your girls!
Yeah it is crazy how we can change our minds after feeling so certain about something. But like you said- God will lead us in the right direction!
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